Molly Mathews

My name is Molly. I have been married for 5 years and have two children. A 10 year old step-son, a 2 year old daughter and I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with a boy! I live in the town I grew up in and have a large family that I see often. We all live close to each other right now and I hope it stays that way as we draw a lot of support from one another. I have been a nurse for 6 years, mostly in the emergency department, and I love my job. Since young childhood I dreamed of being a nurse and a mom and here I am both! I couldn't have imagined how difficult the journey would be but neither could I have fathomed the Joy that would come from both. Becoming a mom has made me into a better person in many ways and a bit of a crazy worry wart in other ways! Having support from other moms who have been there before or are there with you makes all the difference in the world!


Scared to Death of a C-Section

Over the last month or so, I have had this fear that I would have to have a C-section this time.  I have had three babies naturally.  My first, I had an epidural that only took on one side, I couldn’t feel to push the baby out so I had to have an episiotomy because they had to use the vacuum to get him out.  It was NOT a pleasant experience and especially not a very nice
recovery.  So, my second delivery I wanted to go all natural.  I had a wonderful midwife, a quick and easy delivery, and felt fully recovered by the time I left the hospital; a complete
180 from the last L and D.  Naturally, the third time around, I wanted the same thing as the second time.  However, it didn’t go exactly like that (see previous blogs here, here, and here) but it was all natural.

At my 32 week doctor’s visit, the doctor said that she was a bit concerned about the size of the baby and wanted to do an ultrasound as close to my due date as possible to get a good measurement so that we could be prepared.  Mind you, my last two babies were 9.4 and 9.2 respectively.  She said this one could be close to 10 pounds!  In the back of my mind I am thinking  C-Section?

I visited the doctor’s office today for my 34 week checkup and became a bit stressed out.  To me, my blood pressure seemed high the last two times I have been to the doctor.  However, both times they assured me that it was fine.  I hadn’t gained any weight in 2 weeks, which again they said was ok.  Then, when the midwife measured me, she measured 33 weeks and said I was measuring good.  33 weeks is what I measured 2 weeks ago.  Now, I know that everyone measures differently and maybe I shouldn’t be too concerned, but with different people measuring me, I have consistently measured 1 week ahead this whole pregnancy and now all of a sudden I am two weeks behind.  Now I know one reason for this could mean
that the baby has begun to drop into the birth canal.  I would have to sort of agree with this because of all of the pressure I have recently begun to feel in my tail bone and hips.

However, she began to push and feel around on my belly and said she thought that the baby was breech?  Seriously?  No one has told me that in previous visits.  My last ultrasound at 28 weeks showed baby head down and I don’t think that I have really felt things change since then, but she had me feel what she was feeling and I agreed it sure did feel like a nice hard round head under my ribs!

So, now I have left the doctor’s office thinking, am I going to have to have my first C-section?

I am scared to death!  Any words of advice out there?

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8 Comments on “Scared to Death of a C-Section”

  • Carlene Delane October 24th, 2012 2:07 pm

    Go to the website try to map your babys position and read up on how to correct it. For some women, some good squats will do the trick, for others, they need assistance from a midwife to turn them. Good luck! A section recovery would be no fin with four kids to take care of.

  • Sharon Knosky October 24th, 2012 4:42 pm

    Thanks for the website! I will have to visit it. I must say, I have googled this topic and C-sections quite a bit lately. I can’t imagine recovering from a C-section with four little ones around the house. I look forwared to my upcoming ultrasound next week to see what he’s up to in there. Congrats by the way!

  • Carlene Delane October 24th, 2012 5:36 pm

    Thanks. ;)

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano October 25th, 2012 12:20 pm

    A c-section is obviously not the ideal delivery, but having had two, I can assure you that it is NOT that bad. My first one was an emergency c-section and it saved my son’s life. He came out blue and not breathing, so all I could — and still can — think was that if I had said no to the surgery, if we hadn’t gotten him out when we did, he wouldn’t be here today. It wasn’t in my plans, it wasn’t what I wanted, but thank God we did it. Keep that in mind: there’s a lot of demonization of doctors and about c-sections, but the thing is, you can never know in retrospect what would have happened if you didn’t do it. When it comes to your child’s life, I firmly believe it’s better to be safe than sorry. Would Benjamin have died if we didn’t do it? I may never know for sure, but it definitely looked that way and I’m glad we didn’t take the chance.

    All that said, by all means, do what you can to avoid the surgery. But if it ends up that way, just know that it isn’t the end of the world. While you’re in the hospital is when it will be the worst, but they’ll give you plenty of pain medication to deal with it. Plus, it doesn’t hurt when you have to go pee! LOL. And they’ll send you home with pain medication, too. I had no problems taking care of both Benjamin and Wyatt after my second c-section when I got home from the hospital, and I thought it would be agonizing. But honestly, with both of my recoveries, it was nowhere NEAR as bad as people have made it out to be. Seriously. Not that big a deal.

    AND, one GIANT misconception is that you can’t hold the baby after the surgery. WRONG. You can hold the baby as soon as they come out (at least at Onslow you can).

  • Sharon Knosky October 25th, 2012 2:59 pm

    Thank you for your VERY comforting words. It is nice to hear from someone who has been through it twice tell me it’s going to be ok. I get very panicky in the hospital anyway. I have only had one surgery when I was 15 and it was on my jaws and it was terribly painful….it’s the only experience I have to draw on, but I am sure of no comparison. I would do it in a heartbeat if I were in your situation and I was just telling my husband that if I must have one, there is obviously a reason God would have it happen. So here’s to waiting for now!

  • Sharon Knosky October 25th, 2012 3:05 pm

    I did find some interesting things and exercises I can do to try and turn him myself. But I really need to have that ultrasound next week to see exactly where he is before I start. I am thinking of writing a post about the whole experience!

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano October 29th, 2012 9:04 am

    Yeah, some parts aren’t fun. Like the first time I had to walk all hunched over like a granny at first LOL. And it hurt when I laughed. But that only lasted a couple of days. It still hurt when I went home, but not nearly as bad, and they sent me home with Percocet and Motrin for the pain, which did wonders. And by the time I ran out of medication it didn’t hurt anymore (maybe a week or two?). The second c-section was MUCH easier. I was like doing laps around the maternity ward the same day I had Wyatt! I didn’t need any pain medication at all after I left the hospital. The scars are also barely noticeable. My stretch marks are worse than the c-section scars LOL!

  • Sharon Knosky October 29th, 2012 11:15 am

    Your thoughts and experience has really eased my anxiety. Thank you.

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