Molly Mathews

My name is Molly. I have been married for 5 years and have two children. A 10 year old step-son, a 2 year old daughter and I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with a boy! I live in the town I grew up in and have a large family that I see often. We all live close to each other right now and I hope it stays that way as we draw a lot of support from one another. I have been a nurse for 6 years, mostly in the emergency department, and I love my job. Since young childhood I dreamed of being a nurse and a mom and here I am both! I couldn't have imagined how difficult the journey would be but neither could I have fathomed the Joy that would come from both. Becoming a mom has made me into a better person in many ways and a bit of a crazy worry wart in other ways! Having support from other moms who have been there before or are there with you makes all the difference in the world!

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I Guess I Was Right To Have The Jitters

Remember when I said I had the first ultrasound jitters? Well, I guess my intuition was right. We recently got the tests back from the nuchal translucency screening, and it came back positive. Specifically, for me, the test came back saying that I have a 1 in 6 chance of my baby having Down’s Syndrome. Now, I’m going to see a specialist in Wilmington to get a Level II ultrasound done, and possibly an amnio, to try to determine whether or not the baby actually does have Down’s.

I was able to get in touch with my husband to share the news with him pretty quickly, and he handled it fairly well. He was more worried about me, he said, and understandably so. I spent most of that day crying. I was, and am, worried. Having a special needs child is in not the issue. We’ll love this baby regardless of whether or not they have Down’s Syndrome. But what parent wants their child to have heart problems for life? A higher risk of cancer? Respiratory issues? And you also want the very best life for your child. You want them to grow up, go to school, work, get married, have children. Will they still be able to do all of those things if they have Down’s Syndrome? Maybe, maybe not. But it’s hard to think that your baby may never have a normal life.

Of course, on the other hand, everyone I know that has a child with Down’s Syndrome talks about not these issues, but about what a blessing they are, and how much they bring to their family. I do have faith that it will be the same for us. I know it will be harder, but I also know that it will be worthwhile. Regardless of what happens, this baby will be so loved.

I know that the odds are still in our favor that we’ll have a perfectly healthy baby. And we’ll hopefully be finding out one way or another very soon. Until then, it’s just a waiting game… which could possibly be the worst thing of all.

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10 Comments on “I Guess I Was Right To Have The Jitters”

  • Gina December 14th, 2011 1:11 pm

    You’re in my prayers, Cassy. God bless and strengthen you, whatever happens. (And bless you especially for being one of those good and brave people who’s willing to give life to your child, whatever happens!)

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano December 14th, 2011 1:24 pm

    Thank you, Gina. Abortion was never an option, even before I knew about any of this. I will never understand someone who aborts a child just because they have special needs. They still deserve to live.

  • Jessica Brown Jessica Brown December 17th, 2011 6:53 pm

    hey cassy, I wouldnt worry. i never got the screening done bc the doctors said they make parents worry for nothing. She said the test wasn’t perfected yet and the “kinks” are still being worked out and most of the time if all the testing comes back positive they are false positives. Keep that in mind while you have to endure the waiting :) youre family will be in my prayers!

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano December 19th, 2011 8:51 am

    Yeah, that’s what everyone keeps telling me. But I can’t help but be nervous!! LOL. Only one more day and hopefully I’ll have some answers.

  • Jessica Brown Jessica Brown December 20th, 2011 4:54 pm

    did you find anything else out, yet? good news i hope!

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano December 20th, 2011 6:43 pm

    I just had my Level II ultrasound with the specialist and it was really, really bad news. LOL. But still nothing specific. I go back again in two weeks to get another ultrasound and, if I choose to, an amnio. And at this point, I guess that’s what I have to do.

  • Jessica Brown Jessica Brown December 25th, 2011 9:57 pm

    Awe I’m so sorry, hopefully these drs are making you worry for nothing

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano December 26th, 2011 7:23 am

    I hope so. I’ll find out more in another week.

  • Claudia September 11th, 2012 9:02 pm

    I know its almost a year later but can I ask how did things turn up?…

  • Cassy Fiano Cassy Fiano September 11th, 2012 9:49 pm

    Wyatt was diagnosed with Down syndrome via amniocentesis when I was around 16 weeks pregnant. He was born June 5th, is healthy, and we’re very happy!

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