Molly Mathews

My name is Molly. I have been married for 5 years and have two children. A 10 year old step-son, a 2 year old daughter and I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with a boy! I live in the town I grew up in and have a large family that I see often. We all live close to each other right now and I hope it stays that way as we draw a lot of support from one another. I have been a nurse for 6 years, mostly in the emergency department, and I love my job. Since young childhood I dreamed of being a nurse and a mom and here I am both! I couldn't have imagined how difficult the journey would be but neither could I have fathomed the Joy that would come from both. Becoming a mom has made me into a better person in many ways and a bit of a crazy worry wart in other ways! Having support from other moms who have been there before or are there with you makes all the difference in the world!


A Special Surprise for the Daddy-To-Be

This is our second pregnancy, and for the second time in a row, Matt will be missing just about all of it. This time, he’ll be missing the birth as well. He’s never been to a single doctor’s appointment, he’s never felt the baby move, and he’s never seen an ultrasound. He missed everything last time, and for the most part, he’s going to miss everything again. My heart just breaks for him.

This time around though, he is going to be home for a few short weeks of the second trimester. So I decided to arrange for a Christmas surprise: an ultrasound just for him. When I was pregnant with Ben, I was impatient and decided that I wanted to find out the gender early. I just couldn’t wait until 20 weeks, and finding out early meant that I could make a big “Its A Boy!” box to surprise Matt with. So I went to Womb’s Window in Wilmington to get the ultrasound done, and at around 16 or 17 weeks she was able to correctly determine the gender. It was so wonderful. The room was nice and cozy, the ultrasound tech was so nice, and — the best part of all — there was the most comfortable recliner ever for me to lounge in during the ultrasound. I didn’t pay for 3D photos, but she gave me some anyways, along with a disc of the baby moving around (mostly yawning), and I also got a teddy bear that played the baby’s heartbeat. I knew right away that this was the place to go for Matt’s ultrasound surprise.

It took a lot of haggling. You have to have an appointment, and this time of year is slammed. Everyone apparently wants to find out the gender before Christmas so they can get baby shower gifts as Christmas presents. For me, it was just a matter of the military. I didn’t know when he was coming home at first, then there was the issue of his leave dates, and when we finally found out exactly when his leave was, I only had about a week of advance notice to give the owner. But she was still able to get us in on such short notice for an hour’s appointment.

Now, at only 15 weeks, I know that we might not be able to find out the gender yet. (At Womb’s Window though, if she can’t find the gender then she lets you come back a few weeks later for free.) But that’s not really why I’m doing this, although it would be nice. I want Matt to be able to have this one special thing before he leaves. I want him to be able to see the baby this time, to hear the heartbeat. I want him to feel like he is included in this pregnancy. And I know how much this will mean to him.

Tune in next week to find out how the surprise went!

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2 Comments on “A Special Surprise for the Daddy-To-Be”

  • Gina December 20th, 2011 10:36 am

    What a nice surprise! Great idea!

  • Cassy December 24th, 2011 7:39 am

    Thanks Gina! I’ve been so excited about this for months now!

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