Molly Mathews

My name is Molly. I have been married for 5 years and have two children. A 10 year old step-son, a 2 year old daughter and I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with a boy! I live in the town I grew up in and have a large family that I see often. We all live close to each other right now and I hope it stays that way as we draw a lot of support from one another. I have been a nurse for 6 years, mostly in the emergency department, and I love my job. Since young childhood I dreamed of being a nurse and a mom and here I am both! I couldn't have imagined how difficult the journey would be but neither could I have fathomed the Joy that would come from both. Becoming a mom has made me into a better person in many ways and a bit of a crazy worry wart in other ways! Having support from other moms who have been there before or are there with you makes all the difference in the world!

erin-carey

The Circumcision Decision

Circumcision is a big decison for new parents to make

Circumcision is a big decison for new parents to make

One big decision my husband and I have to make early on in our son’s life is whether or not to have him circumcised. 

I know this can be a touchy topic but I will just talk about my own feelings on this topic and readers can know that this is just one opinion.  I’m not going to get into whether or not to circumcise, that is a personal decision for each family to make.    

My main concern if I do have him circumcised is that I don’t want him done without local anesthesia.  As a veterinarian I know that it is easy to put in a little skin block (in this case a ring block around the foreskin) and it makes a big difference to the patient.  I’ve heard people say that it is such a quick procedure that they really don’t need to be blocked.  I’ve also heard that the block would be just as painful as the procedure but I disagree with that statement. 

You can use a tiny needle to block the skin and that would be the only poke he felt.  Also, the type of anesthesia used could be long lasting so that he could have continued pain control for hours after the procedure. It will take a little longer to do the procedure but if the result causes less pain to the patient, I think it is worth it.

I plan on talking to my doctor ahead of time and making a plan that I’m comfortable with and that works for our family.  If I can’t get my needs met then I just won’t have it done at all.  Sure my son will have to make the decision for himself later on but at least I’ll know that I tried to make the right decision for him at the time. 

Have you had a positive or negative experience with having your son circumcised?

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5 Comments on “The Circumcision Decision”

  • SylkoZakur March 9th, 2010 1:52 pm

    I had to make the circumcision decision, too. Here is my blog post about it http://chaoticmama.wordpress.com/2010/01/12/circumcision-decision/

    I don’t go into the scientific arguments, it’s just my personal story. Hope it helps you.

  • asnatureintended March 9th, 2010 7:36 pm

    Hello Erin! :)

    Having a block or not, either way it will be very painful for the baby! :( They normally pass out and people would think they are going to sleep. I can show you many studies regarding infant pain and the neurological effect in the infant, that it affects them for life. They won’t remember it but the brain will never forget it.

    Check out this video about the circumcision decision
    http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=318043118054

    and a video regarding how to care for a intact penis vs. circumcised one.
    http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=347743143054

  • Nicole Matthews March 9th, 2010 10:39 pm

    I think you summed up my feelings in the last line – my son will have to make the decision for himself … It’s his decision to make, not yours. I don’t believe we have a right to make an irreversible decision for another human being. I didn’t even get my daughter’s ears pierced until they were old enough to make that decision for themselves.

    My question to you is this: Why? Why would you want to remove a perfectly normal, functioning part of your son’s body? There is not one acceptable, valid or compelling reason to have MGM performed on your son and many reasons to leave your son’s prepuce alone. Your son and future daughter-in-law will thank you.

    Think about this: 100% of baby boys are AGAINST circumcision.

  • Erin Carey Erin Carey March 10th, 2010 5:56 pm

    I knew I’d get some strong opinions on this topic. I’m not going to get into a heated debate with anyone over this issue, I was just blogging about something that was on my mind.
    I’ve watched the videos and am pretty educated on the topic and I don’t think that you should push one way or the other. It is a decision that my husband and I will make for our son when the time comes and that is up to us. If we decide to go for it then our son will look like it daddy. My husband is happy he is circumcised and doesn’t feel he is lacking any sexual pleasure because of it. He doesn’t feel any psychological effects from the procedure and if he doesn’t remember then it really isn’t affecting him. Since I didn’t have the procedure, I don’t have a strong feeling for or against it. My husband did and is happy he did and that is what matters to me.
    I’m happy that you made the decision that was right for you and your son.

  • Jay March 25th, 2010 10:41 am

    My parents made the decision to circumcise me, feeling that it was the right choice for me. There’s something to remember in that I also grew up to be an adult and had an opinion for myself, and I determined that it was not the right choice for me.

    Having lived with permanent urinary problems and with painful, tight erections. Obviously this does not happen to anyone, but it is important to remember is the fact that it CAN happen is why we must ask why to circumcise in the first place and risk this? The risks of being intact are nothing compared to living the way I do every day dealing with these painful issues, or several others like myself and those who have it far worse than me.

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